How many children do you have? 4
How old are your children? William, 20; Hannah 18; Katherine 13; Olivia 11
Are you a mom of boys, girls, or both? 1 son, 3 daughters
How do I continue to rise in the power and strength of the Lord in this age?
How did you keep the spark alive in your marriage after becoming a mom?
My husband and I have been married for 23 years. I believe the strength of our relationship can be attributed to our dependence on Jesus and our commitment to act lovingly even when (especially when) we don’t feel loving.
Ecclesiastes 4:12: “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back to back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Together in the covenant relationship of marriage, my husband and I refine and strengthen one another. However, without Christ as its central cord, marriages are vulnerable to selfishness, brokenness, and worldly distractions. With Christ as a marriage’s central cord, your relationship is empowered to love like Christ: to bear, believe, hope, and endure all things.
With Christ as its central cord, my marriage is rooted in much more secure soil than human emotions; it is rooted in the life-giving soil of faith. In 23 years, we have endured the loss of twin boys, job loss, four children (three teenagers—still one more to go!), multiple moves (twice cross country), breast cancer, and my impatience. There have been many days that if our marriage was dependent our emotions, I am sure one or both of us would have run for the hills. However, our faith means our marriage is forever so we act lovingly toward one another despite the emotion of the moment or season. What we do for one another is not as important as the choice to have our actions guided by the love that brought us together. Perhaps it’s a lunch or cup of coffee made, an errand run, a disliked task taken off the other’s plate, not a grand gesture (though that works too!) just a simple act of service or giving.
The years have taught us, covenant love is love acted out. Not surprisingly, its fruit: LOVE.
Oh, and we made a commitment: a date every week. Some weeks, the date was just a “no kid topic” quiet conversation with kiddos asleep upstairs. But dating your husband is KEY.
What is 1 nugget of advice you’d give to other moms?
Being a mom is not for the faint of heart! Let’s face it, more often than not it is a thankless job. The most important truth for every mom to remember: YOU ARE THE PARENT THAT GOD CHOSE FOR YOUR CHILDREN. The nugget of advice I would give to all mommas—well I would give two:
- seek Jesus first
- show yourself grace
Whether you are exhausted from the physical demands of infants, toddlers, or young children or emotionally drained from parenting tweens and teens, seeking Jesus first will empower you to experience the fullness of God. The world points us to self-care, reminding us that we cannot pour from an empty cup. But, I would tell you when you seek God’s care, your cup will be filled to overflowing. In Him you will find rest. You will be filled with peace. Through Christ you will be strengthened to persevere. By His Spirit you will be equipped and empowered to be the mom your children need. And when you make mistakes (and you will because we ALL make mistakes…and, if you are like me, someone quick to anger: MANY), please momma show yourself grace. Forgive and ask for forgiveness without hesitation. Pray both on your own and with your children to teach them that His grace is sufficient.
Walk in the truth that our all-knowing and all-loving God chose YOU to be your children’s mom. When you seek Jesus first and show your children that we all need grace, you will experience the fruit of the Spirit in your role as momma!
It has been a long day. You get home, the sink is full of dishes, the kids are screaming. What’s your go-to quick recipe for dinner?
Seriously, please tell me this happens to other moms as often as it happens to me! I have a couple of mom hacks for this and then I will share a recipe.
Most moms double batch recipes so they can cook less often during the week and, no doubt, this is a go-to move for us working mommas. But, I’ve learned that the eye rolls grow louder when the words “leftover” or “reheat” are mentioned at dinnertime. So my hack: double batch one aspect of the meal. For example, if I’m making chicken parmesean—I don’t double the meal. I just double the protein. I fry, grill, or bake enough extra chicken breasts to be incorporated the next night into an entirely different meal. Night two that cooked chicken can be added to a quick soup, quesadilla, added to pasta, thrown into a stew. The options are endless.
When I know I have a crazy week ahead, I take time during the weekend to meal prep. On a Sunday, I will go ahead and make 2-3 dinners: soups, casseroles, big batch of chili, stews, a large roast. I will also prep salad or veggies and store them separately so I can just assemble.
Teach your kids to cook! Young children can learn to cook a number of things well. So if I come in and I’m over it, I ask one of them to make us dinner (this is also a great solution to boredom and sibling fighting).
Sheet Pan Dinners
Chicken Drumsticks and Roasted Potatoes
Preheat Oven to 425. Line a large sheet pan with parchment paper.
Family pack of chicken drumsticks (typically 12-14 per pack, chicken thighs work too!)
1 pound of baby red potatoes, halved
Olive oil (about ¼ cup)
Any herbs, aromatics and spices you like (I use garlic & onion powder, chili powder, paprika, salt and pepper most often; sometimes if I’m feeling fancy: fresh garlic, lemon, and fresh rosemary or thyme, salt and pepper)
Place everything on sheet pan. Drizzle with olive oil and season as you like. Toss everything with your hands and spread evenly across sheet pan. Roast in oven 40-45 minutes until chicken cooked and potatoes are crispy and golden.
Carol Bevil – Author, Speaker, Blogger
I am all the more grateful for the women (like Carol) who have chosen to join me on this journey of transparency and support – ESPECIALLY in addition to the life adjustments and loads we all experienced in the midst of the last year! I can’t thank you enough.
Connection and support are vital to our growth and survival as humans and as Women. I have met many Mothers (myself included at one point) who are going through the trenches and carrying loads solo. This has often led to depression, loneliness, isolation, and such guilt and shame in “not measuring up”.
My prayer is that the women who lay eyes on “Bold & Brave”, will be encouraged, emboldened, and all the more hopeful.
For the Moms,
This series is for the Moms! In honor of Mothers, this May will be chock-full of real stories of Motherhood from Moms of all ages, in all stages. Join me as I feature different Moms (on a weekly basis) who will so graciously be sharing their life in words.
If you missed the previous feature, catch it here! Stay tuned for more stories of triumph, valleys, and faith!
- The 5 Enemies of your Breakthrough
- She’s Marked Podcast – E008 Laying Foundations (Understanding Our Fight & Who it is Against)
- She’s Marked Podcast – E007 Picking back up the Mic: Pressure, the Pandemic, and God’s Amazing Grace
- For the Moms – “Bold & Brave” with Tamara South
- For the Moms – “Bold & Brave” with Jeana Rayfield