How Many Children do you have? I have four Children
How Old are your Children? My children are aged 9, 7, 5 and 2 years old.
Are you a Mum of Girls, Boys, or Both? I have 3 boys and 1 girl.
How do I continue to rise in the power and strength of the Lord in this age?
What advice would you give to the mom struggling to find time to fulfill her responsibilities and find time to spend with the Lord?
I would encourage her to spend time with the Lord. I would remind her that the Lord has given her children, a husband, job(s), ministry, business etc.
Our Lord is eternal, and omnipresent. He knows the beginning from the end. He is in our past, present and future. We are not the first mothers to walk the earth. The Lord knows our responsibilities as parents and all that our days entail.
Sometimes we can feel like we are failing because we have not spent hours praying, studying the bible, waiting on God, attending meetings etc., when the little you are doing – the little time we have set aside to seek God and spend time with him – is enough.
All the Lord wants is a moment with us within our busy schedule; a moment for us to enter into His presence so that He can refresh us, strengthen us, and equip us for the days, months, and years ahead. Those moments we spend with God changes like the seasons. There are times in our lives when our time with God is long (hours on end) and times when it is short and squeezed in between feeding the baby and helping the kids with homework. Remember the Lord is not concerned with the length of time spent but more importantly that you spent time with Him. Do not be hard on yourself. Do what you can, and I know the Lord will be happy with however long or short the time spent with Him.
I would also encourage mothers to spend time with the Lord as they perform their everyday tasks. Pray and worship the Lord as you cook and tidy the house. Make your school run a prayer walk. As you sit to have your morning cup of tea, or even whilst feeding your baby read the bible, a devotional, or even use that quiet moment during nap times to wait on Him.
How do you equip your children with the gospel?
The last couple of years my husband started reading the bible to the kids before bed, and he also included the Lord’s prayer. He would say a line at a time and have the kids repeat it. It was not long before the Lord’s prayer was taken in turn and lead by each child including our two years old son from memory.
We have continued to add more scriptures to our bedtime routine. Some scriptures my husband declares over our lives, and others we let the kids repeat after us as we want the word of God hidden in their hearts. We are consistent and do it each night before bed whether all the kids are awake to participate or not.
My husband and I pray together, worship, study, and read our bibles around the children. This often creates the environment for our kids to get involved or ask questions. This provides an opportunity to discuss the word of God with our children and the importance of what we are doing and why.
What is 1 nugget of advice you’d give to other Moms?
The Lord made us all different therefore try not to compare yourself to other moms. This means our marriages, our children and our walks with Christ will look different. A mother often knows best, and our Creator knows us even better.
Continue to do what is best for you and your family even if it looks a lot different to what somebody else is doing. There is not one set way on how to take care of your household, raise your children, or how you spend your time with God.
A non-working mom’s day will look different to a full-time working mom’s day. A single mom’s daily routine would be different to a married mom’s daily routine. A mom responsible for 1 child would be different than a mom responsible for 6 children.
Keep doing what you are doing Mamas and never let another mama’s life make you feel you are not doing a good job as I know and God sees that you are.
Alishia Orhurhu – Author
I am all the more grateful for the women (like Alishia) who have chosen to join me on this journey of transparency and support – ESPECIALLY in addition to the life adjustments and loads we all experienced in the midst of the last year! I can’t thank you enough.
Connection and support are vital to our growth and survival as humans and as Women. I have met many Mothers (myself included at one point) who are going through the trenches and carrying loads solo. This has often led to depression, loneliness, isolation, and such guilt and shame in “not measuring up”.
My prayer is that the women who lay eyes on “Bold & Brave”, will be encouraged, emboldened, and all the more hopeful.
For the Moms,
This series is for the Moms! In honor of Mothers, this May will be chock-full of real stories of Motherhood from Moms of all ages, in all stages. Join me as I feature different Moms (on a weekly basis) who will so graciously be sharing their life in words.
If you missed the previous feature, catch it here! Stay tuned for more stories of triumph, valleys, and faith.