How many children do you have? I have one child.
How old is your child? My child is three years old.
Are you a mom of boys, girls, or both? I have a daughter, so I am a mom of a girl.
How do I continue to rise in the power and strength of the Lord in this age?
Who were you before motherhood?
Before I became a mother, I was a psychology student, and then I got into an abusive relationship with my now ex-boyfriend.
I spent over three years with this man, and during that time I faced a lot of hardships. Fortunately though, I became a born-again Christian during this time and even though I struggled deeply with sin, God still rescued me and He saved me from myself and from the abuse.
I fell pregnant with my daughter, and God was able to take me out of the relationship with this man and protect me ever since then.
What do you do when motherhood isn’t hardly what you expected?
I never knew that becoming a mom would be one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, especially with being a single mom. I suffer with PTSD, and anxiety and I even battled postpartum depression. It has been such an overwhelming journey, to say the least.
Whenever I find myself struggling, or feeling unsure or overwhelmed, I turn to God. I always turn to God and give everything to Him in prayer. He cares for us, and loves us. He is always there for us and that is why it is so important to trust Him, no matter what you are going through.
Another important thing to do is to make sure that you have a supportive, loving network of friends and family that you can turn to for help and guidance. Unfortunately, I left one toxic relationship and returned to another toxic environment when I fell pregnant, but after some time, I found my tribe. I found a group of mom friends who I love dearly and we talk all the time and support one another, and lift each other up. After all, that is what women should do for one another.
Speak life to the mom who is weary and burned out.
Mama, I just want to say that you are doing an amazing job. You are an incredibly strong woman and there is nothing wrong with feeling weary or burned out. It is inevitable as a mom. But I want you to know that this too shall pass. Every storm that we face, every trial that we go through, every struggle that we bear in our journey as a mom, will all end eventually.
Take as much time as you need to rest and start practicing some self-care and self-love, because you deserve it. You deserve the same amount of love and care and support that you so freely give to your family.
There is nothing wrong with stepping away from the situation that is causing you to feel this way, and there is also nothing wrong with taking time out of the day to spend on yourself. You are so selfless, and so wonderful. You are doing a GREAT job!
What advice would you give to the mom struggling to find time to fulfill her responsibilities and find time to spend with the Lord?
This took me a long time to be able to balance a healthy lifestyle with making sure that I have enough time to spend with God each day. I would try to rearrange your daily routine/schedule to fit in time for God because He is the most important.
A few months ago now, God started waking me up earlier than I usually would and I saw it as a sign to spend time with Him. If you are able to wake up 10 or 15mins earlier each morning to read the Bible, put on some worship music or do a devotional, then it is really going to help you start the day on the right foot.
Your soul will feel replenished and you can tick that off and get on with the rest of your day by fulfilling your other responsibilities.
What boundaries do you create in order to keep your children and home protected morally and spiritually?
First things first, I pray over my household every night. I cover myself, and my family/home with the blood of Jesus to stay spiritually protected. I am led by the Bible in terms of how to raise my daughter and that is where I am morally protecting both myself and herself. I do not allow the world to teach her the things that I can easily teach her myself.
This world is corrupt and we are not to follow it. We are in the world but are not of the world, as we are children of God. That is why it is so important to be honest and open with your children and to teach them everything that they need to know. Otherwise, the world is going to fill in the gaps for you, and that is not something that you want them to be influenced by.
What were some of the valleys you’ve experienced as a single mom? What insight, wisdom, or encouragement would you offer single moms?
There have been a lot of valleys that I have faced during this time of being a single mom.
From leaving a toxic relationship to living in another toxic environment, to breaking free from all of that and finding time to heal, cut the soul tie and move forward and move on with my life.
Then there is the financial struggles, and needing to learn new skills on how to cope as a single mom (mentally, emotionally and spiritually speaking). Plus don’t forget, finding that perfect balance in your life where you have enough time for God.
There are always going to be difficulties that we will face as a single mom, but just know that God is our Heavenly Father and is our provider and carer in all of this.
The best encouragement that I can share with other single moms is to seek help when you need it, to let all of your stresses, anxieties and struggles go to prayer to God and to have faith in Him knowing that He will fight your battles.
Sacha C. – Christian Blogger
I am all the more grateful for the women (like Sacha) who have chosen to join me on this journey of transparency and support – ESPECIALLY in addition to the life adjustments and loads we all experienced in the midst of the last year! I can’t thank you enough.
Connection and support are vital to our growth and survival as humans and as Women. I have met many Mothers (myself included at one point) who are going through the trenches and carrying loads solo. This has often led to depression, loneliness, isolation, and such guilt and shame in “not measuring up”.
My prayer is that the women who lay eyes on “Bold & Brave”, will be encouraged, emboldened, and all the more hopeful.
For the Moms,
This series is for the Moms! In honor of Mothers, this May will be chock-full of real stories of Motherhood from Moms of all ages, in all stages. Join me as I feature different Moms (on a weekly basis) who will so graciously be sharing their life in words.
If you missed the previous feature, catch it here! Stay tuned for more stories of triumph, valleys, and faith!