- How many children do you have? 2
- How long have you been a mom? 4 years
- Are you a mom of boys, girls, or both? I have 1 boy and 1 girl.
How does having this treasure of Christ influence and transform your approach and ability to mother?
Having the treasure of Christ gives me strength to tackle the good and the trying of motherhood. Knowing that in Christ is the answer to every issue that I may come across takes the pressure of trying to pursue perfection in motherhood off the table. Instead, I can pursue Jesus and seek him and allow his leading to be my guide as a mom.
What are some falsehoods that you believed about your role as a mother?
There are so many false narratives that we are fed about what motherhood should look like regardless of what your motherhood story looks like. But for myself, as a working mom, those falsehoods nearly cost me my family!
Before I became a mom, I was sure of what motherhood looked like. I had pictured it as I served the youth ministries at church and spoke with many of my friends who had children. Once I became a mother, I needed to be consumed with the role. Regardless of the pathway God had me on, when my children were born, they would be the sole focus on my attention.
As a mom who became a mom later in life, this was the narrative that I told myself, and when I jumped into motherhood when my bonus son came into my life. I threw myself fully into this way of thinking.
In my mind, I had to do it all, I had to be the end all and I had to know it all. And it was great, for a time. But it was very unrealistic. When my daughter was born and I tried to maintain the delicate balance of home manager while also maintaining my holding in the workplace as a specialized dentist, my carefully crafted balancing act began to crumble.
As deadlines began to be missed at work and at home, I had to not only admit that I could not do it all, I had to re-evaluate what God had already planned for my motherhood journey!
This meant letting go of the guilt I felt for enjoying being a mom who worked outside of the home and recognizing that in motherhood I would not only have to ask for help, I needed to embrace it without micromanaging.
It wasn’t until I got intentional about really being authentic to the mom God created me to be that I was able to truly see the beauty in my role as mother and how God could use my journey to help guide my children to where he wanted them to be.
In the often unending demand of mothering, how do you keep Christ first?
In motherhood, and in life in general, there are always going to be demands on our time and energy that seek to keep us from being intentional with our relationship with God.
Understanding this, there have always been 2 things that have kept me consistently seeking rest in Him.
The first is to make quiet time a non-negotiable part of my day (while also being realistic about life). I would love nothing more than to have a hour to study the word each day like I did when I was without children, but in one sitting now; that is unrealistic. I can, however, carve out 10-15 minutes of uninterrupted quiet time with the Lord each night.
The second thing is to weave Christ into every aspect of my life. Which, for my family, looks like consistent worship or sermons as background music. Praying on the spot when people come to mind, and having scripture posted throughout the house to “dwell on” as I pass.
Speak life to the mom who is weary and burned out.
You are seen and known by a father who loves you more than anything in this world. The love that you have for your children and the devotion you feel towards them pales in comparison to the immense love that your Father in heaven feels towards you.
When he created you and planned your life, he took great care and concern in considering every little detail, and then smiled as you were born, took your first steps, and grew into motherhood.
When he made the good plans for your life, they were created with him as an integral part, walking alongside you all the way. He is for you and with you. This world may make you weary, but your rest is in the Lord! He created you for a rhythm of working and resting that is only found when you exist in life participating alongside the Lord.
Remember, when you are weary, when the cares seem overwhelming, God is stronger. He is present. He is with you.
Since our inception in 2020, For the Moms has received over 2500 views in over almost 30 countries!
I am all the more grateful for the women (like Dr. Ashley Nicole) who have chosen to join me on this journey of transparency. I can’t thank you enough.
For the Moms is an annual written blog series which aims to ignite and connect Godly Women in various stages of Motherhood toward the revelation of their Divinely given assignment and their impact as the gatekeepers of the home.
The purpose and mission is to elevate Christ and conceptualize Godly character in Motherhood – and to reach down and pull up those Mothers who are just starting, who are understandably worn, or who have somehow lost their way.
Further, For the Moms is a movement that is calling to attention the warriors within us for the times in which we live. We will aim to unravel the mistakes and cycles of generations past. We will wage war for our families. And, we will diligently seek the Lord’s face concerning His will for our children, and who we are becoming through our Motherhood.
My prayer is that the women who lay eyes on the For the Moms Series, will be encouraged, emboldened, and all the more hopeful.
For the Moms,